How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Hey,

Ever wondered about the origin of 

"comparing apples to oranges"? 

Shakespeare coined it in "The Taming of the Shrew" 

with a twist—comparing apples to oysters. 

Yep, even Shakespeare was a weirdo!

It’s no business secret - comparison is the creativity killer. 

Just a few seconds on your phone, 

scrolling through feeds, and it hits—envy, 

impatience, the feeling of lagging behind.

But here are 3 practical tips to break free from this cycle:

#1 Evaluate the Entire Picture: 

Money undoubtedly makes life easier.

Yet, I've met tons of "successful" 

entrepreneurs who are miserable.

On the other hand, I've met a few entrepreneurs 

who've genuinely done the hard work, 

gotten the financial rewards, 

and remained remarkable, grounded human beings

Everyone has to confront their shadows eventually or 

spend their lives avoiding and numbing.

Anyone can appear successful in a moment.

However, aligning your external success with 

your internal values is a completely different game.

So, although it may sound cliché, next time you find yourself making comparisons...

#2. Send Genuine Well Wishes: 

The scarcity mindset suggests their “come up” diminishes your opportunity.

It’s signaling the universe, that there’s not enough to go around.

But the abundant mindset states, there’s always enough for everyone.

This isn't about being superior or offering fake kindness - intention matter.

The only way to put down comparison is to do the opposite of judging …

Genuinely root for them.

#2a. But What If You Don’t Like Them?

What happens if someone doing well is an a**hole?

Wishing them well and disregarding your feelings feels disingenuous.

So do both. 

In these instances, acknowledge their hard work AND ..

Wish them the courage to explore the deep, internal work. 

Seriously, if they really committed to it, they’d have a profound impact on so many lives.

And finally … 

#3. Move the Finish Line

If you’re waiting for the money, fame, and acknowledgment to define success, you’re screwed.

You’ll likely quit long before you get there. 

I learned this the hard way. 

I dedicated eight months to my newsletter, 

writing three emails weekly and 

spending a minimum of $1.5k on ads 

without seeing a single sale.

Had I waited for concrete proof of success, 

I would have quit early on.

Instead, I shifted my goals.

I let go of expectations about which email should work and 

embraced the inevitability of progress.

Success became about the output, not the outcome.

Hitting “send” was my victory, something no external factor could diminish.

It sounds like such a trivial shift,

But it’s had such a profound impact. 

If you can fill the validation void internally,

It softens the impact of the ups and downs of the outside world.

Cheers,

PS - If you want some more help.

Check out my free training on “Growing Audience Without Social“ here.

Or my latest podcast episode here.