How I Stopped Letting Criticism Shrink My Business

The further you put yourself out there, the more judgment and criticism come with the territory.

You can choose to avoid it—smaller business, smaller audience … smaller paycheck?
Or you can embrace it.

Here are 3 beliefs that shifted my relationship with criticism and helped me grow:

1. You can only own your 50%.
   What I don’t like about others often reflects what I don’t like about myself.
   Anger, judgment, and criticism usually show up when someone triggers the parts of us we haven’t accepted yet.
   Yes, we can always improve, do better, and be more inclusive—but there will always be someone who doesn’t like it. Your only job is to own your part, not theirs.

2. Conflict is a through point, not a destination.
   Some of my deepest arguments have been the seeds of growth for the most meaningful relationships.
   If we’re truly committed to the growth of our audience, isn’t conflict just the beginning of understanding?
   Lean into it, don’t fear it. Criticism is often the first sign that you’re pushing people to think differently.

3. Judgment is a mirror.
   Criticism stings because we see a reflection of something we’re afraid to do, be, or express.
   The truth is, judgment is rarely about them—it’s about us. “Why aren’t they considering me?” “How dare they do that?” Notice how selfish judgment feels.
   Often, the very thing you hold back—whether it’s showing up more boldly, charging more, or saying what you really think—is what you’re secretly criticizing in others.

So, next time someone comes at you with judgment or unsolicited feedback, ask yourself:

• Did I do my part? What was my intent?

• Is this a conflict worth understanding?

• Is this noise a sign that I’m finally growing?

Because if you’re playing small to avoid criticism, you’re also holding back the audience that needs your message most.

Embrace it. Grow through it.
You’ve got this.

Cheers,